Ok, I’m sorry about the title. I couldn’t resist. It just felt too perfect. Moving on…
It seems that I only blog once every two years. I was shocked to see that some people were still reading my old posts. So I’ve decided to revive my blog, this time with two kids and a full time career. I’m in my mid-thirties;the digital revolution is sprinting past and I refuse to be left behind. The goal is to write, promote and maybe even podcast. These are grand dreams for someone who barely has time to go to the bathroom in peace. Time will tell how far I get.
The focus of my blog will continue to be motherhood and career. It’s something that’s become a major focus over the last few years thanks to the likes of Sheryl Sandberg and Anne-Marie Slaughter. Can I have it all? Should I lean in? What does having it all even mean? And how far should one lean in before falling over and crashing? These are grand discussions. What I really want to know is how parents manage going work after months of sleepless nights with a new baby? I’d also like to figure out how to motivate myself to become fit again. I’m always healthiest when I’m pregnant because I have gestational diabetes. But as soon as those babies are out, the slide backwards begins. These topics and many more still to come.
I hope you’ll keep reading and tell me what you think.
It’s clear to me that the person who came up with the term “sleeping like a baby,” never actually had a baby. For the first few weeks, most babies do not sleep for more than four hours at a time. That’s the absolute maximum! My baby was no different in the first 6 weeks of his life. But things have dramatically improved in the last week or so. In my last post, Tired, I mentioned that my baby was sleeping 5-7 consecutive hours a night. For those who are not yet moms, that is quite an accomplishment for a little 2 month old. Other new moms have been asking me what I’ve done to get him to do that. Partly, I think it’s because my son is just like his father, who loves sleep about as much as he loves me. But I also believe the key is putting the baby on a bedtime routine.
Every night he gets a bath and a massage at around 8 PM. Then he gets his last bottle of the night. And at around 9 or 9:30 PM he falls asleep and stays asleep until around 2 AM. He wakes up to eat and then goes back to sleep for a couple more hours. On the days we give him his bath earlier, he ends up going to sleep earlier and staying up most of the night. That leads me to believe that it’s the routine that determines his sleep cycle. We also make sure to swaddle our little one very tightly and turn on some white noise for the first hour of his slumber. Believe me, I know how precious sleep is to new moms and dads. I hope this helps.
-East Coast Mama
When you have a baby, people are always eager to find out how you’re doing. For me, it’s a very simple answer. I’m tired. The irony is, I have, quite possibly, the sweetest baby in the world. He only cries if he’s hungry, in pain or needs to sleep. And actually, my two-month old has been sleeping between 5-7 consecutive hours a night. It’s a dream for every mother of an infant. And yet, I never manage to even come close to that amount of sleep. Why? Because I am exclusively pumping.
When my little one was born he latched on right away and did it so well that he left my nipples bleeding. I had to give myself a break and give him the bottle while I healed. And since my little baby is a little genius, he quickly figured out the bottle was a much faster, more satisfying way to get milk. Since then he screams every time I time to get him to breastfeed. Knowing how healthy breast milk is for him, I have insisted on pumping and feeding. This means, I have to pump every 2-3 hours. Most of my day is spent walking around with strange contraptions attached to my breasts as I get milked like a cow. My entire day is planned around when I need to pump. My goal is to get my little one to six months on my breast milk. Right now, it’s perfectly doable. But soon, I’ll be heading back to work (something that’s already giving me nightmares). I don’t exactly work in the most mommy and kid friendly environment. I hope my milk regulates in the next month so that I can pump less but not lose my supply. There’s nothing like mama’s milk and I hope I can keep him on it as long as possible. He’s worth every drop, even if it does leave me so completely exhausted.
-EAST COAST MAMA